Although I wasn’t grounded very often I loved being alone in my bedroom.
It wasn't until many years later that I came to realise that the present moment is the only place where we live and is actually all we have control over.
Irrespective of what happened yesterday, last month or what may happen in the future it always amazes me that the measure of our peace of mind is often determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment.
It goes without question that so many of us have certainly mastered the art of listening to the inner critic
We allow the past and we second guess what will happen in the future to dominate our present moment, so much so that we end up anxious, sad or just left feeling hopeless.
Why is it that we put off or postpone our happiness by convincing ourselves that someday will be so much better than what we have today??? Unfortunately, we then find that the same mental dynamics that tell us to look towards the future will only repeat themselves over and over again and we find that we get nowhere pretty fast.
John Lennon put this into perspective when he wrote ‘Life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans’. Children grow up, people move away or die before we have time to say goodbye, we reach an age and look back and wonder where it all went and our dreams slip away before we have time to realise them.
This blog will look at some techniques that will help you to live in the present moment.
When we ground ourselves, we are calming or slowing down our emotions and getting more in touch with our internal and external worlds. Grounding our energy can be helpful when we feel either unbalanced or nervous. Being grounded also means that we are more mindful with respect to our environment.
Grounding is a really good way to learn to bring your attention back to the present moment. I will leave it to Mark Twain who so eloquently wrote ‘I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.
here are some techniques to help to ground yourself
- Breathe in for a count of four and then out for a count of four.
You will feel more of a benefit if you keep the breaths in and out for the same number each time.
It is best if you do these slowly and deliberately.
2 Put your hands in water
Focus on the temperature. How does the water feel on your fingertips, on your palms and the backs of your hands?
Does it feel the same temperature on each part of your hand?
Put your hands into the warm water first then try the cold water. Does it feel different to switch from warm to cold? Next time try the cold water first. Does this feel different?
3. Be Kind to yourself – Treat Yourself the Way you Would Treat Your Best Friend
Repeat kind, compassionate phrases to yourself:
“I May be going through a rough time right now, but I know I will come through this”
“I am strong and I know I will be able to come out the other side’
“I am trying hard, and I know I am doing your best I can with the knowledge I have.”
4. Take a few minutes to just stop and listen to the noises around you. Do you hear birds tweeting? Can you hear dogs barking?
Are you listening to the waves on the beach, sat by a river or can you hear the traffic?
Are you sitting watching the world go by or are you people watching? Can you hear what they are saying?
Do you recognize the language? Take time out to let the sounds of your surrounding wash over you.
5. Create a Self-Soothing Distress Kit.
When we are in the grips of emotional overload it can be extremely difficult to remember the things that we know will work best to soothe us.
Ssoo … The key is to prepare this kit in advance so that it is available when we need it most.
You can be as creative as you want to but remember to make it easily accessible.
In this instance then less is more as it can become an overwhelming mess.
There are so many ways that this can be put together but here are a few ideas to get you started. The key is to prepare something in advance.
- If you love inspirational sayings, you might create a pinterest board of your favourite quotes. Or you could write down your favourite sayings in a journal or on your phone or tablet.
- If items are too big then print out some photo’s and make a photobook.
- Small keepsakes that remind you of happy times.
- Itinerary of a special holiday.
- Special piece of jewelery.
- Scented candle lotion or perfume.
I hope you have enjoyed reading my blog as much as I enjoyed writing it fot you.
I realise that there are so many more for you to enjoy so I will look forward to catching up with you soon